How to Address a Retired Military & Spouse?
First off, there are two ways to address armed services personnel in writing:
—-#1) the official way How to Address Military Couple
—-#2) the social way
—-—-(Full Rank) (Full Name), (Initials for the Branch of Service), Retired
—-—-—-and Mrs. (Surname)
—–—–—-Which looks like:
—–—–—–—–Captain Robert W. Thompson, USN, Retired
————————-and Mrs. (Surname)
This official form would be used for an event when he’s being invited as a retired officer, maybe to attend in uniform? Participate as a representative of the military in some capacity? Anyway, if your event is social & the officer is being invited as a person and not as an official … keep reading.
—-—-(Ful Rank) (Full Name)
——–—-and Mrs. (Surname Only)
——–—-Which looks like:
——–—-—-Captain Robert W. Thompson
—————-—-and Mrs. Thompson
#1) Spelling out the rank is always the most formal. In the armed services, there are service-specific abbreviations for the ranks. If you know them, use them. If you don’t know them just spell out the ranks.
#2) “Branch of Service” and ‘Retired” are not used on social correspondence.
#3) The most formal way to write an official person’s name is to not break up the rank and the name … hence his name is on one line and Mrs. Thompson is on the next line — not mixed up his name and rank. The form “Captain and Mrs. Robert W. Thompson” is informal. It’s not terrible, but it is not what the military services suggest in their correspondence style guides..
— Robert Hickey How to Address Military Couple